Because Valentine's Day is almost over, I have about three hours and 57 minutes left to write a post expression how much I love and hate it at the same time. The Hate It part of me wants to not direct you to the Web site for the Worst Holiday of all time.
The Love It part of me wants to talk about how, though this will be only the second Valentine's Day I've celebrated with someone else, though by all accounts I should be the type of woman who insists on referring to Valentine's Day as "Singles' Awareness Day" and who you might think would be all about "The Vagina Monologues," I can't help that I kind of love the kitch.
However, I don't like Eve Ensler. And I don't like how, for whatever reason, Valentine's Day is about women who have issues. Sigh. I know this will not win me any points with the Internets. What. Ev. Ah.
Anywho.
I think the reason I don't like her is because I feel like she might actually perpetuate the idea that women need to be free from something, that women's bodies are somehow more problematic then men's, and that women have a hard time sexually because they don't "know themselves" or something. And, um, really? I'm not saying it shouldn't be discussed. I'm not saying that violence against women isn't a problem because it is. But I'm also wondering if maybe all this attention we pay to Why Women Can't Get Off is somehow contributing to Why Women Can't Get Off.
What say you?
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2 comments:
yessssssss! oh, yessssss!
i agree.
I'm totally with ya. Although, I must admit that I have seen the vagina monologues on more than one occassion, and ironically, it is how Paul and I spent one valentine's day while we were dating.
I enjoy the show in some sense, but it does nothing to help deflect the whole 'women's bodies are complicated' thing. People don't realize we can't have it both ways -- we can't have some super-essentialized 'womanly essence' AND not be labeled sexually problematic. We turn in the title of 'complex / unique goddesses' when we turn in the myth that our bodies are somehow incapable of orgasm.
Good stuff Katy. I'm impressed.
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